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Third Trimester Pregnancy Anxiety—the Good, Bad, and Hard

Third Trimester Pregnancy Anxiety—the Good, Bad, and Hard

Sometimes when things get harder, they actually get easier. The third trimester of pregnancy was the hardest for me. I got besieged by an unspeakable anxiety and inability to sleep. I thought I had August and September to work productively. My plans were all lined up,...

Mantras for Birth (and Life)

Mantras for Birth (and Life)

This year, I’ve been playing around with more mantras and affirmations, or words of encouragement that I repeat to myself. By consciously choosing the words we use, I think we can gently encourage ourselves in new directions. I share some of my more personal mantras I’ve been mulling on as I go into the tender space of welcoming a new person into our lives, on the precipice of giving birth again. 

Celebrating Rest, Leisure, and Laziness

Celebrating Rest, Leisure, and Laziness

This letter is as much a note to myself as to all of you: taking time to nap, to rest, to say no, and to cross things off your to-do list without doing them (or destroying the to-do list altogether!) is about as badass as you can get in a world that glorifies overwork and overdoing.

Turning Inwards: Vulnerability

Turning Inwards: Vulnerability

Two things happened to remind me that my body is changing, yet again, and I’m tilting into the third trimester: First, on an innocuous Thursday, as I was stepping out of the shower, I failed to lift my food up high enough to step over the bath edge. My foot caught in the shower curtain, a tangle of filmy plastic sheeting and soap suds, and I ripped a hole in our shower curtain. Then, on a walk in the woods with a friend, I went down. Pregnancy, for me, has brought with it a heightened sense of vulnerability and fear, especially in the last trimester.

MATERNITY LEAVE

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Why Maternity Leave Should be Less About Time Off and More About Flexibility

Why Maternity Leave Should be Less About Time Off and More About Flexibility

“I worked for myself, so I didn’t have any institutional maternity leave. With my first kid, I was just graduating from graduate school when I got pregnant and it was a very uncertain time. So I basically scraped it together doing freelance consulting and just made it work.” — Morra Aarons-Mele on having three children and running her own consultancy.

POSTPARTUM HEALTH

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Your Body — Episode #050

Your Body — Episode #050

We have complex relationships with our bodies. Women harbor certain expectations and assumptions about what our bodies are supposed to look like and what they are capable of. And it can be tough to come to terms with the reality when it doesn’t quite line up with what we had in mind.

RETURNING TO WORK

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Core Value #7 | You Don’t Have to Do Things the Way They’ve Always Been Done

Core Value #7 | You Don’t Have to Do Things the Way They’ve Always Been Done

You don’t have to do things the way they’ve always been done. And startups are one of the best places to imagine new futures. It’s okay to break things, to rebuild things, and to do things differently than the way that they’ve always been done. Startups and Pregnancy have a lot in common because they are both creators of new things—ideas, businesses, structures, life—and to do so, they harness a huge range of power.

Filling the Gap With A Hidden, Untapped, Talent Pool

Filling the Gap With A Hidden, Untapped, Talent Pool

Dominie Moss is focused on a very specific gap in the market that is wildly underserved: women who have taken a career break and want to get back to work. In her estimation, there are 427,000 women in the UK alone that want to return to executive-level positions and have the talent to do so, but no clear path for what it looks like (yet). Dominie’s company is setting out to fix this.

Do You Believe In Your Inner Creativity?

Do You Believe In Your Inner Creativity?

I have a confession: I’ve never thought of myself as a very creative person. When I was younger, and people would insist “but you’re so musical”, my response was always, “yes, but I’m a very technical musician”. Not a lot of value was placed on being creative in the...

FUTURE OF WORK

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Why to Join a Mastermind (And How to Start Your Own) — Episode #060

Why to Join a Mastermind (And How to Start Your Own) — Episode #060

There is a lot of cultural pressure to figure it all out on your own, but you don’t have to. You can build communities of people around you and support each other in the decision-making process. Listen in to hear the benefits of joining (or starting!) your own mastermind group.

Postpartum Recovery: Healing, Being a New Mom, and Nutritional Health — Episode #059 With Lily Nichols

We place a lot of emphasis on planning for the perfect birth and making sure that our bodies are healthy during pregnancy. But what do we need to recover after the baby arrives? Lily Nichols shares her postpartum journey, discussing her extreme caution around physical exertion and the nutrients new moms need to heal damaged tissue and meet the energy demands of breastfeeding.

Three Lists Every Postpartum Mama Needs (An Easier Way To Ask For Help)

The first few days and weeks postpartum are challenging. Not only are you resting and recovering from the massive feat of bringing a baby into the world— but you’re also transforming in your relationships. Alongside this, I found that communicating clearly to others and setting good boundaries was also quite hard. How do you communicate to those around you what you need and want? How do you tell them how to help, and when it’s too much? In this post I want to share a strategy I love for preparing for your postpartum period: writing out to-do lists for other people ahead of time. Here are three lists you can use in your own planning.

Here’s The System I Used to Cut 50% Of My Workload This Year

Most of us are taking on an insane amount of work, and we’re stressed, burned out, and over-tired from it. This year, I decided to plan ahead and find a way to do WAY less, but do it strategically. But what would I leave off the plate, and what would I keep? Here’s the three-part strategy I used to evaluate my time and my energy, and the surprising insights that came as a result of the exercise. Also: heads up, this is a lengthy post (4,500 words and counting).

Preparing for the First 30 Days Postpartum After a C-Section

Recovering from a C-Section is worlds different than recovering from a vaginal birth. Here are 9 steps you can take to be prepared before your birth and during your recovery.

Preparing for the First 30 Days Postpartum: What to Buy, Research, and Say

Right now I've got a lot of friends in my calendar who are having their babies very soon! I've been in contact with each of them about what to do to prepare for birth and post-birth, and I thought I'd share some of the tools that got me through my own birth process...

When You Become A Foster Parent and an Entrepreneur in One Year — Episode #003 with Nicole Walters

"If you can parent, you can be an entrepreneur: because you don’t know anything about what you’re doing—and you’re doing the most important job in the world." Nicole Walters is a mother of three kids and the CEO of Monetize Thyself, a consulting firm that specializes...

Things I’d Go Back And Tell My 24-Year Old Self

I turn 34 this month, and I thought I’d go back and list all the things I wish my 24-year old self would have known. On the list? Take all the adventures you can. When in doubt, pick something, and then learn from the choosing. Stop trying to be perfect and well-liked, because that is certainly a fool’s errand. And I give my past self advice about money, sex, feminism, and trying to pick the “right” career.

ABOUT THE ESSAY SERIES

What does it mean to get pregnant when you’re also a lead breadwinner, a female founder, or a solo entrepreneur? What are the stories of pregnancy and parenting we’re not yet sharing (at least out loud)? Our popular blog series dives into questions from real parents and women looking at what it means to navigate work, life, and fertility. From leadership questions, to mindset shifts, to strategies and systems for success, to the ultimate challenge that is navigating first-time motherhood and the return (or continuation) of work, here are the stories we’re telling. In real time. 

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